Divorce, it happens. How do you manage divorce with Facebook and so many other connections in life? What if you keep finding out things you would rather not know via social networking sites? A simple example, my ex and her family are visible to me through our common children on Facebook. Honestly I would rather not know or see about anything to do with her and her family, yet I am confronted with it. I want to see what my children have to say, what they are thinking, doing etc but somehow block anything related to or linked to select others. FaceBook needs to address this because life just isn’t that simple and we need a way to manage our connections better.
Years ago I worked on a product called InfoCentral. It was a wonderful database that gave as much power to the connections as the objects the connections were between. You could manage your connections, including possibly multiple connections of different types between objects. It gave you the ability to realistically map life’s complex realities into a software metaphor. I really enjoyed that program and have been unable to find anything even close to its power in the years since. Hopefully something like that can evolve from the successful roots of Facebook.
Currently there’s a way to avoid seeing news from specific people posted to your main page, but even that nice start needs to be improved. Here are a couple of suggestions that would really help in connection management.
1. Be able to prioritize, perhaps with as few as 3 levels you could group people into for news you would rather see first… priority level A, B and C.
2. Be able to block anything having to do with, showing or related to specific individuals (without them knowing)
3. Be able to “drop” someone from your relationships and yet have them continue to think its still there. A stealth mode. Someone you don’t want to offend but perhaps this relative posts updates a little too frequently for your tastes.
Small changes add up to big differences in what you see and experience when using social networking software.