had vs 2012 ultimate already installed on windows 8
installed intel parallel studio xe 2013 update 4 with default settings (this includes c++ and integrate with vs 2012)
after install went to "intel parallel studio xe 2013" group and selected "intel parallel studio xe 2013 with vs2012 icon"
click on get started with intel c++ composer xe link and follow instructions to start new project
however the part about project > intel c++ compiler XE > using intel c++
is missing , as far as i can tell from the templates intel c++ did not in fact integrate with vs 2012